Valentine's Day is approaching. This columnist thoughtfully greets his better-half, Rebecca, an advanced Happy Valentine. He does really love Rebing. For 34 years, his love has never failed.
"Love is what we make it", a line from that love song popularized by Kenny Rogers, yields an idea on how love developed among sweethearts and couples for the happiness, satisfaction and the
never-ending joy for that matter.
In columnist's notes, the following are the 9 major qualities of love as culled from the experiences of many wise and inspired men:
Love is based on the powerful attraction between two people, an attraction that is physical, emotional, social, and spiritual.
Love includes a deep empathy and understanding for the loved one. Empathy is the ability to feel as the other person feels and shares intimately what the other person experiences.
Love is an emotion with great binding power. It fuses and unites two people into oneness, holding them together through many troubles, challenges, and problems.
True love desires the highest good of the loved one. When one loves another, he desires those things which will bring that person lasting joy; he would do nothing that would jeopardize the other's eternal potential.
Love involves a willingness to share resources. The one who loves finds joy in sharing with the loved one his time, money, abilities, strengths, or any other resources available to him.
True love is highly durable. It recognizes and accepts imperfections in the other without loss of love, endures strains and challenges to the relationship, is not weakened by physical separation, and weathers problems without permanent damage.
Love is a living thing. While it is highly durable, it does require nourishment and care or it may begin to die. As long as this encouragement and nourishment are forthcoming, love continues to grow until it reaches perfection.
Love accepts the individuality and uniqueness of the loved one and receives joy from that. It allows the other freedom to act, decide, and move without constrictive jealousy or limitations.
Love is unity. Without jeopardizing the individuality of either party, love is a coming together into oneness of spirit, purpose, desires, and experiences. Its ideal is expressed in the concept revealed to Adam: "Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave into his wife; and they shall be one flesh." (Genesis 2:24).
Love for him is when he cares for his wife and for his six children according to the “nurture and admonition of the Lord.” The greatest love he did ever feel is when his wife, Rebing and together with their children were sealed for” time and eternity” in the temple of God in Manila, Philippines.